Yin and Yang
Over time we are supposed to mold
ourselves into sculptures rather than be a lump of clay. Every year our
personality is forced to shift because life events occur. An antiphony can
strike you like lighting. The view on
life constantly changes, so we need to learn to adapt. If we never went through
changes, we wouldn’t reach our potential sculpture form. Some people are afraid
of a personality changes because they fear what they could become. I feared my
personality change until Tarah walked into my life my junior year of high
school.
My junior high years through my
sophomore year of high school, I was a people pleaser. I thought having tons of
friends would make me a livelier person, but it didn’t. I would do anything in
my power to make things right, when I made wrong. I thought my compassion was a
generous act, but instead was taken advantage of. I never asked for anything in
return because I thought it was selfish and inconsiderate.
My sophomore year I decided to take a risk
and ask for something. I wanted to ask if my girlfriends could come over and
have a chat. The relationships between the girls and I was crumbling, and I
wanted us to stay together. So I sent a text message asking if we could meet at
my house later that day. My intentions was for everyone to understand of one
another and once be united again. I wanted peace with everyone, but instead I
received negative responses. I had text messages saying I wanted to cause drama
and chaos. One person in particular person replayed with how I was selfish, stuck
up, and immature. She didn’t want to be friends anymore because I showed these
characteristics often. I was crushed because I thought it was true. I believed
the negative comments until my junior year in high school.
Tarah and I were friends, but not best
friends. Tennis was right around the corner, so I asked if Tarah would join the
tennis team with me. She was worried because it was her first year playing and
it would be my third. I told her tennis was fun and she would enjoy it. After
try outs Tarah and I teamed up and became tennis partners for the season. We
became close during the tennis season because we would practice together. Tarah
and I had to learn how to blend because she was my complete opposite. Tarah spoke
her mind while I didn’t. She isn’t a push over like me. For an example if you
decided to punch her in the arm then she would turn around and slug you ten
times harder. But I’d take all the throws you threw. Tarah helped me stand up for
myself when people treated me wrong. She told me I shouldn’t
have to please my friends 24/7 just because I fear of losing them. She pushed
me into uncomfortable situations, but I grew from them. Tarah intellectually
and emotionally pushed me into the person I am today. When we disagreed, we
thoroughly talked about it until we came to an understanding. We often referred
ourselves to yin and yang because of how we balanced each other out.
For so long I believed friendship was to
give 110% while the other gave 10%. Tarah showed me a friendship isn’t like how
I believed. She showed me a friendship should contain an equal amount of
effort. Tarah encouraged me to come out my shell to be an outspoken women. She
was honestly the best friend I ever had. I had changed for the better because
of Tarah, so thank you Tarah. I’ve now been sculpted into the women I was meant
to be, but I’m not done yet. I still need work, but for now I’m happy.
